I have 436 friends from all over the country. I know what music they like to listen to, what movies they like to watch, what they like to do for fun. I know who they’re dating, what they’re doing this weekend, what they drank last night. I know how they’re feeling, what they’re thinking and who they’re having lunch with tomorrow afternoon. I am not a detective, nor do I have enough time or dedication to discover all of this information in person, so how is it possible for me to know so much about my friends’ lives? The answer is Facebook, the increasingly popular social networking website that started in 2004. While once only open to college students and staff, Facebook is now available to everyone and currently boasts over 14 million registered users who “create profiles to connect with friends, share interests, join groups, send messages, write notes and post photos” (
http://www.facebook.com/). In a society that continuously creates and relies upon new technology, Facebook’s innovative online community fits in perfectly. As with most technological advances, however, the many benefits of Facebook are often outshone and obscured by numerous drawbacks. It simultaneously creates and sustains deep friendships while initiating shallow, meaningless interaction. It connects us to the world around us, yet isolates us from reality. It facilitates and inhibits, entertains and humiliates, clarifies and confuses, delights and disappoints. Facebook’s users are often nonchalant about its role in their lives, but tend to find its influence more significant than expected. United States society is often regarded as both pioneering and destructive. We advance technologically at the expense of the environment and provide many people with jobs, but do so with wages so low that poverty becomes rampant. Such situations do not have a quick-fix solution and are definitely not black and white; Facebook also reflects this paradoxical nature. When used in the context for which it was created, Facebook is a valuable social tool; however when it dominates our social lives and imposes upon face-to-face friendship, it runs the risk of becoming an destructive replica of genuine interaction.
There is a reason that people are falling for, and even becoming obsessed with, Facebook. Upon signing on, your entire community of “friends” is at your fingertips. The home screen welcomes you with exclamation, and a “news feed” about your friends’ activity is displayed. Jenny is doing homework, John joined a group about Hugh Hefner, Nicole wrote on Ross’ wall, Andie added new photos, Brian is in a relationship. Good to know. Facebook informs you that you have one new message, a group invitation, two event invitations, a friend request, and to top it all off, that guy you met last weekend “poked” you (Facebook’s equivalent to flirting). After the home page, you go to your profile, where your picture and personal information are displayed. Your friends, your photo albums, the groups you are a member of and notes you have posted are readily at your disposal. Below this is the “wall” which is covered in kind remarks and inside jokes written by friends. “To the average viewer, my Facebook wall probably doesn’t make any sense,” remarks sophomore Jenny. “It’s a lot of ‘you had to be there’ messages, kind of like our own language.” Essentially, Facebook is a hub of social activity, and you don’t even have to get off the couch.
Looking at it from the view of a new college student, Facebook is a valuable resource one can use to find their place on campus and connect with new friends as well as keep in touch with classmates from high school. From joining groups pertaining to your interests, to connecting with people in your building or classes, Facebook makes this difficult transition into independence a little less intimidating. Facebook becomes a dynamic social hotspot, where friends interact; sharing about themselves, learning about each other, and viewing pictures to go along with every exciting story. “I went to Mexico for spring break, and the first thing I did when I got home was create a Facebook photo album,” says Lindsay, a sophomore. “My friends who didn’t go really got to experience the vacation without having been there.” Facebook allows you to keep careful track of your friends’ lives, and depending on their privacy settings, people you don’t even know.
Facebook also helps to maintain old relationships that may have otherwise faded due to the natural separation that occurs when peoples’ lives move in different directions. While years ago, friends and relatives had to rely on letters and phone calls to catch up and could only send pictures through mail, internet technology now allows for a fast and detailed exchange. According to Becca, “My best friend goes to school across the country and it’s so nice to be able to catch up quickly when our lives are too hectic to talk on the phone all the time.” Our culture expects rapid, effortless, and satisfying results; Facebook provides just that. It is fascinating that such technology exists and is simple enough for the everyday person to use and understand. Unlike many complex computer programs and technological devices, you do not have to be very tech savvy to open a Facebook account and use its many features. Thus, Facebook is accessible to a wide demographic rather than a targeted segment of the population, strengthening its appeal.
Facebook also creates a networking opportunity that goes beyond friendship. Its users can become involved in causes and organizations that interest them, discover new ideas that may have never occurred to them, join support groups and make personal connections that may last a lifetime. It is a forum of public discussion; one can express themselves and feel accepted. Creating a Facebook profile may serve for some as a form of therapy, allowing them to reflect upon themselves and put their thoughts onto the page. While people only used to attend one-on-one therapy sessions with a trained psychologist, the stigma surrounding therapy is disappearing and group therapy is rising in popularity. It can be comforting to know that someone else is going through a similar experience, thus Americans are becoming more comfortable divulging their problems and feelings publicly, as exemplified by the growing blog trend in our society. Like creating a blog, Facebook is a free and effective means of self reflection and expression.
With such full social lives on the internet, however, what becomes of social interaction in the tangible world? Roommates sit silently in the same room writing on each other’s Facebook walls instead of speaking. Plans are made through electronic event invitations instead of in person or with a phone call or letter. Personal conversations and pictures are posted publicly for all to see and comment on. Users have hundreds of “friends,” but how many of these people are they actually friends with? People commonly pass their Facebook friends in public and do not even acknowledge them. In some cases, they’ve never met in person and sometimes, never even communicated on Facebook. Users become “friends” with friends of friends, or request people they have no connection to whatsoever because they find them attractive or for some other obscure reason. As our society becomes increasingly individualistic, sites such as Facebook that seek to connect us can actually lead to even greater isolation if not used in moderation. Is a written message really more fulfilling than a spoken conversation? Does a virtual “poke” feel as good as a physical touch? Is there something strange about defining a person by the number of “friends” they have or by how many people write on their wall? And how well can you really get to know someone by staring at a computer screen?
When life becomes centered at our computer and revolves around our Facebook page, problems within real relationships often arise. Facebook’s public nature allows friends and significant others to see what other people post on our walls and the pictures they tag of us. This information is readily available and completely open to misinterpretation, often leading to hurt feelings, jealousy, and other unwarranted issues. “Facebook is bad. Stephen told me he was going to bed, but he’s totally on right now” sophomore Joni complains about her boyfriend. Such Facebook-triggered conflicts are not uncommon. Although we’re taught not to believe everything we see on the internet, many use it as their most frequent and valuable source of information because it is so easily accessible. Thus, rather than confront someone in person and verify what happened in the old-fashioned way, we take Facebook’s word for it and often create easily-avoidable drama.
Privacy is also a very significant issue with the internet, especially with sites such as Facebook which provide so much personal, and oftentimes incriminating, information. People often put information and photographs on their profile without considering who may be able to access it and use it against them. “The possibility that prospective employers are screening job applicants through the social networking web site [Facebook] is very real” (Bomey). While students want to freely represent themselves on Facebook, they have to use precaution when posting pictures of illegal activity such as underage drinking and when including inappropriate speech in their profiles and wall posts. “Employers cannot discriminate based on race, age or sex. But companies are free to refuse hiring someone based on other personal information viewed online” (Bomey).
Unless the user adjusts the privacy settings, their profile is susceptible to be viewed by anyone in their network. This vulnerability can be disconcerting; knowing that some random person, or even a friend, knows when you are signed on and can see your pictures, what is written on your wall, and now thanks to the news feed, basically trace every step you take on Facebook. Many users protested this new breach in privacy, creating groups such as the “AFSS (Anti-Facebook “Stalker” Society)”. Others started groups in favor of the news feed, while still confirming that Facebook’s design does not allow for much confidentiality. For example, the group “As a stalker, I find Facebook’s news feed feature an invaluable tool” portrays a picture of a peeping Tom with the caption “Stalking: Facebook makes it easy.” Although the issue is addressed humorously, it does not change the fact that, in a sense, Facebook users really can “stalk” people. “I have Facebook Mobile [Facebook offered on a cell phone], and it makes it even worse” says Steve, a sophomore. “If I’m at a party and I see a cute girl, I can look her up by pushing a few buttons and suddenly I know that she listens to Snow Patrol and likes to surf. Talk about coming up with a good conversation starter!” While generally harmless, “Facebook stalking” can go overboard and is an overall waste of time.
Such privacy issues imply that while we generally have control over our realities, Facebook is not the real world. It is a virtual community and should not be regarded as a commanding factor in our lives. There are many more productive uses of one’s time than wasting the day away on Facebook. Yes, it is a useful social tool, and yes, it is fun to be a part of. But in the end, our authentic relationships should shape our Facebook activity and not the other way around. It is one thing to rely on the technological revolution in the US for business and educational purposes, but when it comes to personal interaction, a computer is a inadequate replacement for a living, breathing friend.